10 Breakup Messages You Can Send Her Over Text (+ Examples)

Breaking up with someone is never easy; doing it over text can be even trickier.

But let’s face it, sometimes life gets in the way, and an in-person conversation just isn’t possible.

Ideally, breaking up in person is always the best option—it shows respect, maturity, and a willingness to face tough situations head-on, like when Jon Snow faced the Night King in “Game of Thrones.” But if you really need to do it over text, let’s make sure you do it right.

Should you break up with someone in person or text?

Think about it: Would you want to be broken up over text? Probably not. In-person conversations allow for a more genuine and empathetic exchange. It’s like how Tony Stark and Steve Rogers hashed out their differences in “Avengers: Endgame”—sure, it was tough, but it was real. It provides clarity and closure. Better chance for both parties to move on.

But if texting is your only option, try to approach it like you would in person—with respect and integrity. Odds are those break-up text conversations are going to end up as screenshots for her friends' group chat. 

When Texting is the Only Option

Sometimes, you might find yourself in a situation where meeting in person just isn't possible. Maybe you’re in a long-distance relationship, your schedules never align, or a pandemic is keeping you apart. In these situations, a well-thought-out text can be the next best thing.

Before you hit send, though, breaking up over text should be done with as much care and respect as possible. It’s not just about what you say, but how you say it. You don’t want to look like another completely heartless male to her…and her friends. You already know women talk. It gets around, even online.
To help you out, here are ten text messages that can help you break up with someone respectfully and clearly.

10 Text Messages to Break Up Respectfully

If you haven’t met in person

Most matches on dating apps don't end up being successful for one reason or another. You always want to escalate to meet in person by starting good conversations that flow naturally. This means you need to be able to craft a compelling opener, whether it's a good first message on Tinder or a witty response to a match's bio.

But if the vibe doesn't match, then it's best to send a breakup text and move on. The worst thing to do would be to just ghost the other person and leave them hanging.

• Message 1: Hey {Name}, I’ve really liked our chats back and forth in the last few days but honestly I don’t think we should meet. I wish you all the best.
• Message 2: Hey {Name}, thanks for the video call yesterday. I hate to say this, but after thinking it over, I’ve realized that I’m not ready to start dating just yet. I hope you understand and find someone great.

If you’ve gone on a few dates

First off, if you've already met up with your date in person a few times, congratulations! In person is is a great way to judge someone's personality - how they behave, react, and communicate. Basically see all their red and green flags. Within a few meetups, you can tell if things are going to work out longer term or no.

Now, if you see red flags that you can't move past, it's best to cut things off immediately and respectfully. Here are a few ways you can do this:

• Message 3: Hey {Name}, I’ve had a good time on our dates in the last few weeks, especially the movies! After thinking about it further though, I don’t think we’re a good match. I think it’s best if we don’t continue seeing each other. Take care.
• Message 4: Hey {Name}, I wanted to let you know that while you’re amazing (especially at video games!), I don’t think the two of us are a good match. Instead of wasting your time further, I would love for us to stay connected as friends.
• Message 5: Hi {Name}, after a few dates, I think we’re at different stages of our life. You’re focusing on {Goal} and I’m more looking to do {Goal}. I think it’s best if we go our separate ways. I hope you find someone more compatible.
• Message 6: Hey {Name}, I’ve really enjoyed getting to know you, but I don’t see this turning into something more serious. I hope you understand. Wishing you all the best.

If you’ve been in a relationship for a while

Relationships can start to grow apart if not enough effort is put in from both sides. If you feel like that's happening to you and you would rather call things off early, try to let them know over text first but then also give them a chance to reply back.

Here are some ways you can do this:

• Message 7: Hi {Name}, this is really difficult for me to say, but I feel like we’re not growing together anymore. I think it’s best for both of us if we end things here. Let's chat about this when you come over tomorrow?
• Message 8: Hey {Name}, after a lot of thought, I’ve realized that we want different things out of life. It’s best if we part ways now, so we both have the chance to find what we’re looking for. You agree?
• Message 9: Hi {Name}, this isn’t easy, but I feel like we’ve grown apart. I think it’s time for us to move on separately. I’ll always cherish the time we spent together. Can I call you to talk about this?
• Message 10: Hey {Name}, I’ve been doing some serious thinking and I believe we’re not as compatible as I once thought. It’s best for both of us if we end things now. Call me when you're free.

Moving Forward

Breaking up is tough, no matter how you do it. But handling it with respect and honesty, even over text, shows maturity and care. Think of it as levelling up your relationship game, like when Spider-Man finally decided to embrace his responsibilities. It’s all about doing what’s right, even when it’s hard. Even by text messages!

“Be strong enough to let go and wise enough to wait for what you deserve."

So, keep it real, keep it respectful, and remember, it’s always better to have these conversations in person if you can. But if you need to do it over text, these messages can help you navigate the situation with dignity.
Stay classy bro, and remember that every ending is a new beginning. Like Marvel using multi-verse concept to bring back characters.

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