How to Ask for Nudes [Full Guide for Men]

Believe it or not, women do want to send nudes. But, not to everyone, and certainly not to the guy that just straight-up asks. They are going to send pics to the guy that deserves it.

And, if you want to be the guy who does get nudes then there are several things you’ll need to be wary of and do.

Fortunately for you, this article will provide you with a full guide on how to ask for nudes, how to be respectful when doing so, and other tips and tricks.

Let’s get to it!

What NOT To Do When Asking for Nudes

First things first, we’ll need to go through everything you should NEVER do when asking for nudes. This is an important step and lesson because most people consider nudes to be very private and intimate.

So, you need to be respectful of this intimacy and their boundaries. Let’s look at some examples of big DON’Ts:

Asking For Nudes Before Saying Hello

This is a no-brainer, but it’s still worth mentioning because some men do believe that the best way to ask for nudes is if you do it right after you meet someone new.

This is plain wrong and you’ll never get a nude or even a response almost 100% of the time because it’s generally a huge red flag in the talking stage.

Send A Nude First And Then Demand One Back

Sending an unsolicited nude to a stranger, or rather, anyone is not only illegal, but it’s also one of the best ways to ruin your chances with a girl.

Just because you sent a nude (without her consent), does not mean that you will or should get one back. Never demand anything from her to satisfy your own needs. This needs to be a respectable process from both sides.

Keep Insisting To Send You Nudes

If you’re still very early in the talking stage, you probably shouldn’t ask for nudes, but if you did ask for one, there is absolutely no need to keep insisting on it. If she said no the first time, she probably wouldn’t say yes on the tenth time either.

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How to Ask a Girl for Nudes The Right Way

So, what exactly should you do to get nudes? Is there a right way? Well, of course, every relationship/situationship is different, but the general rule is that you should be patient and respectful. This way, it’s much more likely you will get a pic from her.

Here are several methods you should try when you want to get nudes:

NOTE: Consider that all these methods should be used once you get to know each other better.

1. Ask What Her Opinion Is On Nude-Sharing

If you want a more indirect approach, it’s a good idea to ask her what she thinks about sharing nudes. If she answers your question then she might ask you back the same thing, and from there, you’ll know where the conversation will lead.

However, if she says she isn’t interested in talking on the topic, then you should probably refrain from asking nudes, at least, until you get to know each other better.

Example:

• “Hey, random question and you don’t have to answer it if you don’t feel comfortable with it. What do you think about sharing nudes, just in general?”

2. Ask Her If She Wants Your Nudes

This method applies only to a conversation that already has a bunch of low-key sexting or frequent flirting.

One of the best ways you can make a girl comfortable to send you a pic is if you are the icebreaker. By sending the nude first, you show that you have no problem being vulnerable and that will make her think about sending you one back.

Of course, before you do, make sure to ask is she’s interested in getting such a pic from you. If she does give you consent, send it and then ask for one back. This is not only a great way to ask for nudes, but it’s also a big green flag for her on this talking stage.

Example:

• “You’re making me feel crazy these past few days - Can I send you a nude photo to show you exactly how I feel?”
• “Do you mind if I send you a nude?”
• “How weird would it be if I just sent you a dick pic?”

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3. Find The Right Timing

Sometimes, straight-up asking for a nude might be fine, but not at all times. So, try to look for the right timing. Usually, the best time for both of you is probably before bed. That’s probably when she’s alone, has free time, and is getting comfortable.

However, there are some other times, like when she’s getting in the shower, trying out new clothes, getting ready for bed, etc.

Example:

• “I just got into bed, but I’m still thinking about you. Can I get a quick pic so I can see you?” - from here, you can slowly progress from casual pics to nudes.
• Her: “I have to take a shower.” - Here you can just follow up with a “Can I see?” or “Can I get some evidence from the shower?”

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4. Look For Signs

Sometimes, you don’t have to do much as a guy because if a girl likes you a lot (and is fine with nudes), she’ll probably hint at sending nudes as well. Just make sure not to miss out on these hints.

Example:

• Her: “I just got myself a new bikini!” - This is where you should ask her to see it on her/how it fits her. If she sends you a pic wearing the bikini then she probably will be willing to send more.
• Her: “I’m bored, what’s up” - while not exactly a direct hint that she’s looking for sexting, but it is definitely a possibility, especially late at night. You have room to explore your possibilities here.

5. Ask If She’s Up For Sexting

Sexting is the level before sending nudes, so she might be more comfortable with sexting first. From there, you could expand into sharing nudes once you both get a bit frisky.

Example:

• “Not gonna lie, I am kind of horny tonight, how do you feel about sexting?”
• “What do you think about sexting?” Follow-up question: “Would you be up for it?”

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6. Ask For Pump Pics (If She Goes To The Gym)

If you often talk about working out or going to the gym, you can ask for a pump pic. If she sends you a pic of her booty (in gym clothes) rather than her biceps then she’s probably interested in sending you a bit more.

So, feel free to slowly ask for more revealing pics as the conversation keeps going.

7. Take It To The Next Stage

While sexting and sending nudes can be quite fun, since it spices things up and reveals a bit of the mystery beneath the clothes, the reality is that she’s looking for the real thing. The nudes shouldn’t be your main goal, they should be a step towards meeting up in real life.

Unless, of course, your conversations are long-distance, and you want to keep them that way.

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FAQs

What to do if she doesn’t like being asked for nudes

If she doesn’t like being asked for nudes then respect her choice and don’t irritate her with any more questions on this topic.

What to do if she does like being asked for nudes

If she likes being asked for nudes then if you feel confident enough, you should ask her for nudes (at the right time). But, be ready to send back a couple of nudes, because she’ll surely be asking for them after she sends hers!

What are some additional tips when asking for nudes from a girl?

The best tips are to be respectful and mindful of her time. Don’t ask her for nudes when you know she’s at work out with friends or at a family dinner. Ask her for nudes when you know she’s free and alone.

Also, don’t push if she doesn’t seem interested in sharing nudes or sexting. And finally, never ever share the nudes you get with other people. Those are for you and your eyes only!

Conclusion

As you can see, there are quite a few methods you can use to get nudes and as long as you respect the girls you’re texting, you’re more likely to get nudes than just being blunt. It may take more time, sure, but it will pay off in the end! But, before you do send a nude back, consider using our AI Photos service to give your pic that little bit of extra oomph.

However, if you want to move on from nudes to the real thing or go on dates, we suggest checking out our blog for extra tips. Or, check out our AI Dating Assistant that can help you move from texting to real-life dates.